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Sometimes Trauma Feels Like Failure
Your brain has no way of knowing if the danger is still present, so it relies on you, the way you feel and react now. Sometimes trauma feels like failure, like there must have been something we could have done at the time to have prevented those damaging memories from being created in the first…
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You’re Not Helping, Brain!
Trauma work is hard. At its root is the stark realization that the bad things will never go away. They happened. To ignore the new hand of cards you’ve been dealt is to accept desolation and contempt. Last night, I was running. Graceful. Powerful. Arms and lungs pumping in perfect synchronicity. My perfect legs carried…
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Who Shall Bear the Title of Man?
It’s the tempered strength of a foundation that can bear the weight of responsibility, the kind that holds firm against the storms of life and creates shelter for others. by Thor Uram In a world constantly evolving, where societal norms are being challenged and redefined, masculinity often finds itself at the crossroads of tradition and…
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Meet Your First Demon
When you lose your shit, you’re never alone. Something new appears. And it promptly shoves you aside to hijack the controls… [best read in the voice of Willem Dafoe] by Thor Uram In the lowermost layers inside the mind of every man is a dark, damp cellar roiling with inky black smoke and stale silence….
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Welcome to the Average Joe Zone, Population: Practically All of Us!
Average Joes are everywhere. Just look around. More precisely, look UP! Not at the lies your phone keeps selling you. If you’re beginning to feel like if you’re not in the top percentile of desirable men—the tall, genetically gifted, Ivy-league bred, six-figure-earning “supermen” society idolizes—then you are perfectly on the mark. Welcome to the Average…
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Let’s Get Right To The Point
You have to listen unflinchingly — not the performative kind of listening that glitters like cotton candy in social posts, but the kind where every word that hits your ears leaves a mark. To be trauma-informed isn’t about checking a box or parroting back sanitized language. It’s about staring directly into the raw, bloody truth…
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Don’t Get Lost In All The Self Work
“Without mindfulness and balance, Monk Mode can spiral into self-centeredness, emotional detachment, and an unhealthy obsession with perfection.“ This isn’t all about you. In a world increasingly focused on productivity and self-improvement, “Monk Mode” has gained traction as a popular approach for men seeking personal growth. The concept is simple: temporarily retreat from the distractions…
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Five Unreasonably Difficult Questions Every Man Must Answer
“The world will test you, but it cannot break a man who has already decided.” – Thor Uram A man who walks through life unsure of his values, unprepared for conflict, having not convened with his demons, will find himself at the mercy of chaos. But a man who takes the time to decide—truly decide—how…
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Stop Apologizing for Being a Man
“Ownership of a pair of testicles should not automatically label you as a lesser human being.” – Thor Uram In recent times, society has scrutinized the concept of manhood. Some have claimed it’s outdated, others have called for its complete reinvention. But here’s the truth: it’s still okay to be a man. Not just any…
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Take the Time to Master Emotional Intelligence and You Take Back Your Power
“Getting emotionally regulated doesn’t just mean gaining mastery over your brain when it comes to choosing your emotional responses to stress, it also means becoming impervious to the emotional manipulation tactics of other, weaker men looking to take you down.” – Thor Uram When you decide to master emotional intelligence, something unexpected happens: the people…